Why you need to set your Goals and Intentions for 2019 NOW

Stylemesisteradmin
December 3, 2018

Why you need to set your goals for 2019 NOW

If I said to you that if you set your goals and intentions on the 1st of January 2019 you would be more likely to fail you would accuse me of setting negative intentions and sending out negative vibes into the universe thus actually causing the failure in the first place.

  • The truth is that if you sit down on the 1st of January you are more likely to:
  • Set general goals rather than be specific to what your real needs are
  • You will set the same goals as last year
  • Your friends and family will be more influence as everyone is talking goals
  • You won’t put enough effort into plans and are more likely to fail due to that

And the list goes on.

To set goals and intentions that you can actually achieve you need to actually work out many different elements.

To get you going here are questions I ask clients:

  • What is the outcome you want to achieve?
  • Why do you want to achieve this?
  • How much time do you realistically have over the 12 months to achieve this?
  • Can you afford to reach this goal?
  • Is your goal realistic?

I then get them to write out their goal.

And then BREAK IT DOWN.

Here’s an example.

Let’s say Sara wants to open up her own Bakery.
She wants to open it as she already bakes from home so this is progression.
She has £10,000 investment available from family.

That’s all awesome.

  • What Sara needs to start with is:
  • Where is there a demand for a bakery in her area.
  • How many sales does she need to make to actually make this a realistic business venture?
  • How much can she expect to pay in rent?
  • What are the bills like?
  • What is her current cash flow like with business.
  • Whilst she’s working on opening her business can she afford to hire someone to run the home business?

What costs can she expect in kiting out the shop?

As you can see Sara needs to do a LOT OF RESEARCH. In my opinion it’s the most important stage that can make or break a business idea.

As Sara works she needs to fit this in around her business hours.

Once she blocks out her work time, family time and other commitments she’ll know how much time she has to actually carry out the research (and also see if she has enough capacity to do this during the actual year or will she need to consider a 18 month plan).

Once she knows this she can break down what she needs to research and slot it into her calendar and tick off each task.

Steadily Sara will see her tasks go down and she’ll progress steadily towards her goal.

But if Sara sets a general goal and just writes down “my goal is to set up a bakery in 2019” she wouldn’t know where to start. She’s literally setting herself up to fail and come end of 2019 she’ll be setting the same goal and potentially repeating the same mistakes.

So what do you need to do today?

  • Sit down and think about what you have achieved this year and what you set out to actually do during the year. Consider which of these goals you want to set for 2019 (if there are any).
  • Break down the goal considering the time you have to achieve it (be realistic so you have more of a chance of achieving the goal).
  • Put dates in your diary.
  • Schedule ‘check ups’ during the year on your goal. I suggest once every 3 months. That was if you are behind schedule you can either look at catching up or potentially moving dates around to accommodate this. Either way we are looking at increasing your chances of successfully completing your goals.

It seems like a lot of work to do however this method increases your control on the goal achieving process and also will increase your confidence with goal setting as your success rate too.

And once you’ve done that you can sit back and watch others set out goals with no structure on the 1st of January 2019 and watch a lot of them give up by 1st of February.

What are your goals and intentions for 2019? Share them below.

My top 10 items for surviving the Winter blues…

Alliyah Dawud
October 15, 2018

Preparing for the Winter BLUES

I try to love and embrace all seasons I really really do! But I do suffer from SAD (Seasonal affective disorder). So basically when it’s cold outside, dark and dreary it gets scary for me. I used to spend the majority of the cold months indoors miserable and feeling low until I discovered I could work towards helping to REDUCE the side affects.

Since then my Winters have improved. A lot.

Here is my Winter survival kit

1) SAD Lamp
Small and compact this lamp is awesome. The colder shorter days result in less daylight which isn’t good for SAD/winter blues sufferers.
I switch it on whilst I’m working (ensuring it’s set to the right level to actually do it’s magic on me). Half an hour a day and it contributes towards happy vibes for me.
Price: available on Amazon from £39.99

2) Vitamin B 12 & Vitamin C
In all honesty I try my best to stay on top my Vitamin intake but it can slip. From September I try my damn hardest to take Vitamin B 12 to ensure my body can fight dreaded Fatigue. It’s a must. I usually feel a burst of energy from a month into taking this suppliament regualary.
I also ensure I take Vitamin C to fight Winter bugs.
*Always consult a specialist before starting a new suppliment*

3) Qi Qong (Life Energy Cultivation) Yoga sessions
Great for balancing you, relaxing you and taking stress away. There’s no pretzel moves…it’s about flow. And it’s awesome.

4) Essential oil roller ball (self blended combinations)
To perk myself up I use essential oil blends. Citrus blends rock and are an instant lift.

5) Meditation
Because if you can think it, you can do it. Meditating clears my thoughts and helps me tune into the source (God) and that is a blessing for me.

6) Prayer beads (tasbeeh)
Dikr (repeating suppliments) calms me no end. It also lifts me. So it’s crutial for me personally to do more of it in the darker months.

7) A brisk walk (no more than 10-15 minutes a day)
Yes it’s cold. But what’s the point of having an awesome coat if I’m not going to ware it? A bit of fresh air is super important for health.

8) Journaling
Noting down how you feel and reflecting on things is a major way of keeping ‘tags’ on yourself. I recommend it to everyone

9) Gratitude Diary
Because believe me when you are feeling ‘down’ it’s easy to forget the blessings. So I ensure I remind myself daily!

10) Manifesting Box
I reread my letters, notes etc to keep focus on my goals. Why? I don’t want to fall off the band wagon, lower my vibes and slow down my life. I keep focus.

 

That’s my list. What’s on yours? Leave your comments below.

 

Love,

Alliyah

Why I MEDITATE

Alliyah Dawud
October 13, 2017

Why I meditate

Say meditation to someone who has seen the portrayal of it in mainstream media and I bet most folk will ask you about your hippy life. They’ll expect you to be vegan animal right campaigner that sleep on rocks because you could never possibly sleep on a wooden frame because trees lost their lives to give humans creature comforts.

So stereotyping aside meditation is a highly powerful tool. I know for many Muslims the idea of meditating isn’t a concept they want to look at or consider as it feels more in line with the Hindu faith than Islam. However the concept of sitting down, clearing your mind and focusing is quite Islamic. The idea we need to sit down and fix our thoughts to get the maximum out of our lives shouldn’t really be alien to anyone. The fast pace of life today means we all look for a release and ways of maintaining our sanity and being able to focus on our goals and missions in life. Too much mental junk clutters up the thought process leaving us pushing walls that shouldn’t be our brains. We should be able to prioritise mentally what is important to us and focus on it. Pray about it. Meditate on it manifesting. Being clear is how we ideally would want things to happen/unfold. But if your brain is like a super highway with all the lanes rammed with traffic you won’t be manifesting much soon.

I got into meditating when my life took a few unplanned changes. I got back on the horse and needed quality guidance. I also wanted to be able to hear my mind. Process what was happening and make decisions based on the facts and with clarity.

Do you need any special equipment to meditate?

In my opinion NO. If you wish to use guided meditation on your phone I suggest you use headphones. Most phones come with a pair or you can pick up a cheap pair on certain websites these days. I use ‘tracks’ off YouTube for guided meditation or I’ll look up background tracks for meditating too. You can purchase these yes. But with YouTube around it’s not a requirement to be able to get into meditation.

I don’t dress a certain way to meditate. You may want to be comfortable though especially if you plan to meditate for longer than say 15 minutes.

Although this isn’t essential to meditate I have been known for cleansing the room, airing it out and burning incense (oudh). I like the idea of a clean space to concentrate. This isn’t essential like I side. I’ve just put it out there as I know some people pick up habits along the way and feel they need approval to do them. I never sought any approval from anyone on this issue.

And if I’m sitting on the floor I will sit on my yoga mat or on my meditating stool (which I only purchased after I started spending hours in meditative state).

So how do I meditate?

I meditate in several ways depending on my daily needs. I try to meditate at least 20 minutes a day. Why? I find clarity of my missions for the day soothing. I don’t feel panicked by my tasks. I can take them in my stride. It’s as simple as that. I also find gratitude easier to express when my mind is clear of all the noise.

Guided meditation tracks (YouTube)
The idea behind this is a voice will guide you through the session helping you breathe and ponder on the situation at hand. I love guided meditation tracks because there are lots on specific subject areas such as recovering from bad relationships, healing, health etc. So for a beginner these are fantastic.

Meditating in silence
I use my meditating stool if I feel I will be meditating for a long period of time. Otherwise I sit on my bed (legs crossed) eyes closed deep breaths contemplating/musing/reflecting over matters that concern me. I keep a notepad close by as sometimes I meditate on specific issues and when I finish meditating thoughts/answers come into my head so rather than lose that feeling I keep it by jotting it down.

Meditating with candles/incense/creating a mood
Now this will conjure up images of yoga studios and sandalwood burning for many. For me it’s more of a case of if I’m struggling with something (say a project) then I may need to get into the zone to meditate and fix the issue. So I will light candles to focus and drown out the outside world. I use incense to create ambiance (I use a lot of oudh/sandalwood/sage). I will then meditate in silence or play background tracks of birds/rivers/whatever I feel the desire too.

Meditating & Dhikr

*I do prepare for Dhikr by cleansing myself. For more information you can google Islam and cleanliness for praying*.

Dikr is the remembrance of Allah via short sentences/the names of Allah we recite using on occasion tasbih (like rosary beads). It’s a devotional act in Islam. Now I’m not here to debate if this is an act created by the Sufi sect or someone else. I sit there in silence reciting the names of Allah (one of the 99). I find the actual act of Dhikr is meditation for me. It’s focusing on what my problem is or if I’m doing it as gratitude I am taking part in the devotion to express that. So sitting there focusing on my goal whilst reciting short sentences that glorify the almighty help me not only focus but feel good and help me feel grounded.
I sometimes spend time in silence meditating before I start Dhikr to clear my mind and gain positive focus.

Meditating before praying
I’m a firm believer in the power of prayer. I’m also a believer that a prayer should be said with clear intentions and focus. So to me meditating before praying is a natural step. You clear the mind, and when you say your prayers and essentially talk to God it’s done in a clear, concise manner that is focused on the prayer. Outside noise is ‘blocked’ as you concentrate on the important subject at hand.

I’ve used meditation to control stress and even as pain relief (I had severe shoulder pain due to stress and my GP was unable to prescribe anything for it so I tried meditating which helped cure the pain and helped me gain control over the stress. The stress was relieved too). On a daily basis it’s more for clarity and focus and guidance on all aspects on life.

As I’ve mentioned before as life is fast paced with a lot going on it’s easier for thoughts to get lost and become unclear. Prayers are sometimes said with less focus. The mind to me in the processing centre of your body. Your spirit. Your being. Look at it like this. If your laptop slowed down wouldn’t you get it checked out for viruses and have it given a once over to check out what the issue is? Your mind needs the exact same level of care (if not more). You need to clear out negativity, the bad vibes. Leftover clutter from things that no longer matter. The feelings that are being harboured that are creating mental blocks that stop you moving forward.

So if your brain is slowing down and you having less clarity declutter. Take a brain dump. Write lists. Pray. Dhikr. Meditate. Give yourself the time you deserve for a healthier mind. Don’t let modern day processes slow down the most important piece of equipment you own; your mind.